Dear Shaun: I’m new to the dating scene after ending a 5-year relationship 2 years ago. I haven’t checked my birth chart, but listening to my single friends, I knew what I was up against stepping back into the dating world, but I’m finding that my biggest problem is that every person I connect with is so boring! Am I writing everyone off too quickly, or is it just that meh out here? – Bored in Chicago

Dear Bored in Chicago,

After reading your chart, I had to make sure that my response wasn’t laced with a little bias. Like you, my Mercury is in Gemini, and with this sign in its home planet, you love intellectual stimulation. Small talk about the weather or lunch simply won’t cut it. People with Gemini in Mercury in their birth chart have a seemingly never-satisfied desire to know as much as they can about…everything. It’s no wonder you’re having trouble with people who just don’t seem to tickle your brain’s fancy.

Gemini Stellium

With Gemini in Mercury, Venus, and your rising? You are truly not for the weak-minded. With this stellium in your chart, communication doesn’t just keep you interested; it’s the way to turn you on. Gemini in Venus placements love compliments and people who pay attention to detail. The courtship part of dating is where you shine, and it’s best if you find someone who can match your game. You’re looking for someone who is an expert at banter and wit.

You become bored when conversations lack electricity. Your rising sign, being in Gemini, makes you the social butterfly of the zodiac. You have no problem taking the lead when speaking, and are looking for someone who can keep up with you.

Mars in Aries Wants Passion

Another interesting placement in your chart is Mars in Aries. Things get interesting when spicy planets like Mars or Venus rest in fire signs. Mars in Aries placements are direct and unafraid to use your words. It’s admirable, really, but when you mix that with Mercury in Gemini?

You, Bored in Chicago, are a conversationalist who can get the people going! You’re a little impulsive when you speak, and that can be off-putting to the shy suitors you’ve been running into. I’m all for speaking your mind, but are you letting your dates get a word in? This placement makes you a quick thinker and a quick responder.

Dates are never boring for you, whether you’re ballin’ or on a budget. Use it to your advantage! Throwing out topics of conversation and allowing your date to take the lead could give you more insight into the person before throwing them in the boring pile.

Maybe There’s a Positive Side to “Boring”

With Mercury resting in Gemini in your birth chart, you might have a scattered way of thinking. Focusing on one task at a time isn’t stimulating enough for you, and that can lead to half-done projects or checking out of conversations sooner than you intend. Doing this can lead you to missing out on details about a person that you might actually find interesting. Someone with a slower pace can help you reel yourself back in and help you practice staying present in the present.

A person with excellent communication skills is always a plus, and I’m not telling you to lower your bar (the bar is already in hell these days when it comes to dating). I am saying that you should allow yourself to be open to listeners, too. A person who doesn’t mind following your lead. Your Venus being in Gemini makes you the boss of conversation, and you never know, maybe someone likes to be bossed around. 😉

Curious about what your birth chart says about you? Send me a message and let’s break down your astrological map.