Dear Shaun,

Is there something in my birth chart that mentions what love looks like for me? Should I loosen up a bit? I’m young, and I’m supposed to “play the field” at my age, but I don’t think it’s in me to do so. I have no problem being alone, and I enjoy my own company! Not to mention I have an awesome group of friends, I’m graduating from college this year, and already have a job offer with the company I’ve been interning with for the past 3 years! But my dating life isn’t nearly as promising. It’s all so…fleeting. – Hopeless Romantic in Cincinnati

Dear Hopeless Romantic in Cincinnati,

As my favorite Golden Girl, Blanche Devereaux, would say: chin up! Buttocks tight! There’s nothing wrong with being a true lover. Although I do recognize how tiring it can be with dating apps and podcast bros taking the optimism out of the art of dating.

After conducting a brief birth chart analysis, I understand even more why playing the field just doesn’t seem to suit you. If it makes you feel any better, you’re astrologically wired for relationships with a plan. That’s probably why the touch-and-go type of ordeal doesn’t tickle your fancy. There are a few points in your birth chart to look at when it comes to love and romance, and we’re going to take a little dive into yours.

The 5th And 7th House

Your seventh house is the house of partnerships. While today we’re focusing on the romantic part of partnerships, the 7th house is also the house we look at for business and platonic partnerships. This is the place that shows you how you love, your love language, and your strengths and weaknesses in relationships, and what kind of partner will suit you best.

According to your chart, Capricorn rests in your 7th house. This means that you require a love that is grounded, practical and preferably long-term. Capricorn is ruled by serious Saturn, the planet of responsibility, structure and long-term goals. This is the reason why, for you, relationships aren’t taken lightly. You crave loyalty and stability. You see a future with your partners, and want someone who can invest in building a life with you.

The 5th house is the house of pleasure, creativity, fun & games, and children. You and I are twins in the 5th house, with both of us having the sign of Scorpio in the 5th house. Scorpio, a passionate sign, pursue everything they do with a sort of “all or nothing” attitude.

When it’s in your 5th house, you tend to look for partners who have emotional depth. Situationships don’t usually have that kind of deep passion Scorpio 5th house residents are looking for. You need someone who knows how to have a little fun, is interesting or unique in some way, but also a deep thinker. A person who takes you seriously, who’s also passionate about their hobbies or life goals, is the one you’re looking for.

Venus In Capricorn

Hopeless Romantic in Cincinnati, you simply don’t play around when it comes to love (and I like that). With Capricorn resting in Venus in your birth chart, you want a partner who feels like a teammate. You both have the same goals and are dedicated to achieving them together.

Capricorns are achievers. A Venus in Capricorn placement is turned on by a partner who isn’t intimidated by their tenacity towards their ambitious nature. This placement requires a partner who can grow with them as they charge full speed ahead in life.

To answer your question, no. I don’t think you need to loosen up. Keep your standards high and keep achieving. When you find a partner that matches your energy, you’ll be glad that you refused to keep the bar on the floor.

Curious about what your birth chart says about you? Send me a message and let’s break down your astrological map.